Talking with hindi people about sexuality

When I worked in Pushkar, I often walked on the street as well and made friends with local youngsters. In the evenings they were sometimes making campfires or simply sitting on chairs and smoking in front of their stalls. They were always so welcome and open, inviting me to smoke with them or drink chai and talk.

The young men were often very curious about my sexuality. The conversation could easily start like this:

The young hindi guy: Hello! Where you're from?
Me: Estonia.
Him: Are you married?
Me: No.
Him: Do you have a girlfriend? When was the last time you had sex?
Me: Erm....
Him: How many times you had sex? How was it?
Me: What...
Him: Starts to talk about (probably a made-up story) how he met a girl and had great time with her and details about the intercourse.

But for me these conversations were a little bit confusing at the beginning. First, I was not used to talk about these subjects because of the culture room where I was coming from, in Estonia the approach was different and usually people were not talking about sexuality so openly. And second, of course I was a virgin at that time (I was 22 years old) and in fact had not even physically kissed a girl yet.

But I think that they had this image in mind that usually young men in the west have sex all the time with different beautiful white girls and they know how to get them. So they were also just curious about how to get the white girls and how to attract them.

I also saw that for them it was important for a personal reputation if a guy had had successful sex with a woman or not. So there was for example one tailor about 30 years old, who bragged about his sexuality and that he had had like 100+ woman or something (probably a brag) and asked how many women I had had sex with.

I was like what, I had no idea what he expects from me and thought that if I told at THAT point to him that I was a virgin it would be way too much, so I said: "Two?" meaning the two times I had fallen a bit love with somebody. And he started to laugh and did not believe it at all and said: "Haha, good joke! Cmon, you can tell me? 40 women? It must be at least 20?" I probably looked quite tall and handsome to him, a perfect guy who would get all the women. And he did not believe me at all and tried to make me talk about my sex adventures, which I had not had.

I will make a pause at this point, but it is a very important topic and I will come back to it.